OK girls...
I wanna hear about the guys in your life. Real or your favorite ones in books. :)

One of my faves in BOOKS is Jared from Top Ten Uses for an Unworn Prom Dress

He's cute, got all AP classes(according to Nic), caring,sweet, and always there for Nicolette(Nic).

And you know what? Nic is he's sister's best friend and they've all known each other since they were 12 years old.(They are juniors and Jared is a senior now)(Jared is a year older)
Jared didn't realize that he had any feelings for Nicolette until during the summer when Jared, his family, and Nicolette went on a trip to the beach house of jared's family I think. Jared saw Nic with some Canadian guy flirting on the beach and that's when he realized that he had feelings for Nic. He had never been so jealous in his whole life(his words).

You wanna know what happened between the two of them_ bf/gf? or just friends?
Read the book.....

Top Ten Uses for an Unworn Prom Dress by Tina Ferraro

You'll LOVE it!
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Guys in my life? Nobody at the time. But I am crushing on somebody. (no Renee it's not the guy that I was talking about. I am so over him....he's SO not worth it.)

Az üzenetet módosította a szerzője, szept. 26, 2009, 11:49am.

I'm gonna have to read that book Reggie, sounds like my type of thing!

Well I have a sort of boyfriend. We're not dating until we're 16 and can drive independently but we really love each other. We wanna get married if everything goes according to plan.

i have a bf, he's the same age and goes to my school. His name is Robert and we're completely the same and completely opposite at the same time. he's sweet to me (he's apparently been crushing on me for like 3 yrs). we've been together for a month and 1/2. we do kiss (just pecks on the cheek or lips). and eveything is good so far

oh from books i love Ron for Harry Potter lol. and Mr. Darcy from Pride & Prejudice.

There are so many great guys from books...I don't think I could choose!
Robert sounds awesome Renee!

why can't guys be as perfect as they are in books?

aww thanks Mikaela.

and Reggie idk what to tell you except that you'll meet different ppl as you get older. and hopefully they're wonderful

Amy Tan:
I am like a falling star who has finally found her place next to another in a lovely constellation, where we will sparkle in the heavens forever.
*Amy Tan is a author

Guys in real life CAN be as wonderful as in books but books just usually fail to show all the tons of heart ache waiting for the perfect guy.

very true

definitely...

don't worry, reggie, you're still young plenty of time to find love

hmm book would have to be.....................I have no idea once so ever.
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guys are perfect in books because girls usually write how they think guys should be. So guys could be perfect if they picked up a book and took some notes. But that would never happen.

So what you are saying we can find out if guys are perfect if they picked up a book and actually took some notes?
You're right though THAT might never happen.
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Another guy from a book that I like is Raf from the Magic in Manhattan series.
He's popular but not superficial, sweet, likes Rachel for who she is(she's not popular like him and she's had alot of down times with the populars), and on the recent book he finds out Rachel was a witch but you know what he didn't care he didn't think she was a freak all he cared about was being with her again(they had a down time in the book; he saw her with her witch and warlock friends at a concert when she said that she was too busy to hang with HIM and he saw her with her warlock friend named Adam....or Alex I think.......so it was down hill from there.)

I'm waiting from a phonecall from my bf...it's finally decision time, he needs to decide if he can handle a relationship or not.
I really hope he says yes!
PLEASE wish me luck!

Goodluck, i hope everything goes ok

Good Luck! Don't worry....

Good luck!

Thanks for the good wishes...things didn't go so hot. I guess just friends has to be okay for now. He's not real mature and ready for a relationship and in the mean time I'm in massive trouble...

sad day, i'm sorry..

what kinda trouble??

huh what's wrong????

Aw......I'm sorry things didn't go so well.

What 'MASSIVE TROUBLE'? did anything happen?

I snuck out while my parents were in Vegas to go meet him.
My parents found out and I'm in trouble.
It was sooooooo worth it tho!

dude sneaking out to meet a guy. WOW! should be worth it!
But dang that's how he repays you.

so you guys aren't together but mutally like each other. So are you like friends with benefits or something???

ok girls i have a major problem...

Ok you know that "spark" that people say they have with thier 'lover" i don't have that with my boyfriend. I mean he's sweet and cares about me and i like being around him and talking with him, but that connection that makes your stomache flip... i don't get that with him...

i get that with someone else... i'm so ashamed... to make it worse it's a freshman guy & i'm a senior...

and i don't want to be that girl that breaks-up with her boyfriend to date another guy...

i'm so confused this has never happened to me before.

Help! please...

Serously i have no idea!!!

I KNOW!! oh well i guess i just have to keep reminding myself that its lust not love, and i'd rather have love...

You're not gonna be happy with a guy who doesn't light you on fire. Ever heard Taylor Swift's "That's the Way I Loved You?"
On the other hand if your bf is as sweet to you as you claim then getting rid of him for some other guys just means heartbreak on both ends.
I'm sorry...guy trouble sucks.

And as for me...I wouldn't really call it friends with benefits. The make out session was while we were still 'together'. He recognized that he wasn't mature enough for a relationship. He will still continue to be my best friend and we both still like each other and hope to try again in a couple years. In my heart of hearts I still believe we'll marry...I'm the only girl who could possibly put up with the jerk. He's got some...issues.

Anyways, good luck Renee...I know how you feel. My guy's 13 year old brother totally does that for me. I get myself in so much trouble for flirting with him...sigh.

well i have decided to not worry about it and for all i know this freshman kid is just being a flirt and my bf still really cares about me. i mean he gave up drinking and getting high with friends and was faithful to me at a party when he could have cheated without me ever knowing.

so i'm just letting the chips fall where they may.

He sounds like a great guy!!!

yep :)

My guys an idiot...sigh

But I love him!

umm aren't most guys

Yes they are.

Ok, so I go to a program on Fridays for homeschoolers and they finally decided to do a dance for the highschoolers. I am so excited!!!
My guy friend who's my new best friend (he actually said the word) and I talked today and here's how the conversation went:
Him: You excited for that dance?
Me: Yes! You going?
Him: If you are
Me: I just wnat somebody to go with
Him: You can go with me
Me: I was hoping you'd go
Him: Ya well there's food
Me: you're such a guy
Him: and you'll be there so it's the best of both worlds
Me: Awwww
Him: Yah, I'm awesome like that

So that kind of intimates that we're going 'together' even though we're not dating.
Now here's my question: Would it be really wrong to invite my guy who he and I are 'just friends' to go to the dance with us (he's the one I was grounded cuz of)
Do you think tht would really hurt Kile's (the friend) feelings? I know he likes me but we're new best friends and we talk about my guy Carter and stuff...
Help!!!

i would ask him, i mean if he really is your best friend he'll be cool with it... though it is a little insensitive to ask someone else to go with you when you guys just established that you were going together. i'd say just be upfront about it.

Renee ur guy does souns GREAT!
But one question tho......Did u EVER feel any "spark' w/ him?

nope : /

Aw! for realz? And now ur feeling a "spark" with someone else but you don't wanna break ur bf's heart......well, he does sound like a great guy.

Sorry I don't have a GREAT advice. It's usually u giving ME the advice.......

i wouldnt hold on to him, i mean would u relly want to lead him on more? i mean that is if u really dont like like him at all nymore

Az üzenetet módosította a szerzője, okt. 15, 2009, 5:18pm.

its not that i don't like him, cuz i do i adore him and likewise cares about me. but its the hormones that get me with this other guy, which is why i am not acting on them, i'm far too rational to let some little flirtacious freshman ruin the one good relationship i have.

and i wouldn't just break my bf's heart it would break mine as well becuz i'd never want to hurt him.

You sound like an amazing gf Renee...and a levelheaded person.
Thanks for your advice...
I called Carter and asked him what he thought and he said I just need to make sure Kile knows we're going as just friends. I asked Carter if he'd come and he said maybe...I'm so gonna end up with two dates and no girlfriends to go with...*sigh*

Wait! Who is Kile? Your old bf?

Two dates.....that should be interesting. Maybe they'd get jealous with each other and start fighting... just kidding.

let's hope no fighting happens

and why is it that before this yr. i couldn't get a guy to say hi to me and now i have 2 vying for my attention. Fate can be cruel... lol

i fight would be scary. my freinds started fighting at luch in 6th grade, they got taken to the office and missed lunch.

dude there have been some fights at my high school, well i never saw them, but one time this girl got knocked to the ground and hit her head and then started to have seizures... mostly we have girl fights at my schools... like the guys just throw a couple punches and then stop...

that is really sad. as in dissapointing

Kile's my best guy friend...Carter's my old bf.

i know seiously we have some ghetto chicks that are worse than guys...

umm drama!!!!

only the dumb kind, over guys and talking shit...

my bff says she is a tom boy but she is less tom boy than me! that is kinda hard to get to on that scale!!! i cant spell!!!

Az üzenetet módosította a szerzője, okt. 19, 2009, 8:17pm.

he he

ooo At least i try not to swear.

people say i am a tom boy because i'm not afaird to get dirty but i am totally into fashion

i would call you a tom boy, ur just not a girly girl...

Az üzenetet módosította a szerzője, okt. 20, 2009, 5:00pm.

I think i'm 1/2 1/2

People think of me as a tom boy but the books I read are TOTALLY girly girl!
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Oh sorry SecretariatGirl! I got confused there.
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oooooo the Student Council @ my school is gonna start selling Candy Grams 2morrow.....I wonder if I'LL get one? I never EVER get a gram I'm just the delivery girl..... *sigh*

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Yes serious drama! da other day these two 6th graders were about to bite each other's HEAD OFF! da bad news is one of their parents came and OF COURSE they were dead meat.

i never got any grams in jr. high, i too was always the delivery girl.... ah well i have my guy now soo

oh and i agree with you Mikeala i'm a 1/2 and 1/2

same here

What is a gram?

Another girl asked him to his school dance and he's going with her! I'm gonna kill him!!!

A gram it's like a letter or message that came with a candy(Candy grams) then you send it to people....like your boyfriend, friend, girlfriend, or if you have a crush on someone you can say from anonymous....

You following?
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Someone asked Carter... your old bf to the dance?! Wait why didn't you just aked him in the first place instead of asking Kile? Or did you not ask Carter because it felt awkward...you know? Or..........?

oohh that's so not cool!!!

Mikaela he's probably doing it to make you jealous...

True... he probably heard that your going to the dance with someone other than him and now to get back @ you HE asked someone else to HIS dance.

I've been in love since my GCSE year with a nice boy. At the time, circumstances prevented us from talking to each other about our feelings. I went to high school, then left for uni then England. I've met him again 4 years ago, and there are still butterflies in my stomach when I see him, and I suspect he still feels something too. Unfortunately, I have made a choice, I have a wonderful partner, and I choose to stay with him.

In terms of literature, I have not yet encountered a fictional character that matches this boy and a plot that matches what we went through.

So you still have feelings for him?
Do you guys still see each other?

wow that's intense, you should make it into a novel...

definitely....a romance novel about a girl stuck picking between her old flame and her new one.
Who will she choose...? dun..dun..dun!!

lol

he he he

And then in the NOVEL another guy shows up and of course falls in love with the leading lady. Oh..oh...That's trouble! 3 Guys and one girl...

hey not so funny in real life though

My old bf Carter (only "old" cuz we're giving ourselves time to mature) got asked to a girl-ask-guy dance at his school (we go to different schools) and he said yes...
I was really mad but gave myself time to cool off and called him.
Things are good now and I think he might come to MY dance with Kile and I...fingers crossed!

>68
When it comes to us, I think we still have some unfinished business with regards to our relationship then, and the circumstances. I suppose the situation is bound to stay this way for ever. We do not see each other, but we've always been trying to contact each other every ten years or so, or see each other in person. Sometimes, there are so many things to say that we can't speak properly, but we know that there are unspoken matters that will stay with us until the day we die.

>69
I will not write anything on the subject, because it is his story, mostly, and it is not mine to talk about. There is respect in trusting someone, and his friendship is more important to me than all the money in the world.

okay i feel sorry for you Mikaela. Really i don't understand the entire thing. Why would he do that?

I think he just wanted to go to the dance and I don't fit in with his school friends. Or so he thinks...I've never actually gotten to meet them.
I don't really get it either, he has some strange ideas but I think they're going as strictly friends and I need to be okay with that. *SIGH*

>75 that is very true, it just sounds so epic...

ok Mikaela, don't take this the wrong way, but this Carter guy sounds like a jerk, if he won't even give you a chance to meet his friends... and if he is moving on even if they're "just friends" he's not concerned with your feelings, and you deserve to give your heart to a more honorable guy.

Yeah deffently Renee

thank you we finally have common ground lol

Hi whatcha guys talkin about?

mikaela's love life, i believe unless Helen was talking about the "epic story"

epic story?????
(are you talking about the one with 3 Guys and 1 Girl thing??)
And what is going on in Mikaela's love life??
Is it Carter and Kile trauma??

omg follow the thread, reg, lol yes that's what i said on message 78

From Mikaela:
"I think he just wanted to go to the dance and I don't fit in with his school friends. Or so he thinks...I've never actually gotten to meet them.
I don't really get it either, he has some strange ideas but I think they're going as strictly friends and I need to be okay with that. *SIGH*"

my response:
"ok Mikaela, don't take this the wrong way, but this Carter guy sounds like a jerk, if he won't even give you a chance to meet his friends... and if he is moving on even if they're "just friends" he's not concerned with your feelings, and you deserve to give your heart to a more honorable guy."

and Helen's response to my response:
"Yeah deffently Renee"

*sigh*, boys, so stupid yet how can we live without them?

you can't live with them, you can't... nope ya can't live with 'em

*shakes head*

Az üzenetet módosította a szerzője, okt. 30, 2009, 8:59pm.

what the-?

yes??

im trying to type something but it not showing up!!!

weird!!

hmmm, yea its still not working.

that's odd i wonder why?

whateva it dont matta

OK...I did it.
I finally broke things off with Carter last night. We weren't 'together' but we were waiting till we were more mature. I decided and let him know that it was time to move on. God I'm gonna start crying again! I was up all night crying alst night, I HATE this! Why did I have to loose the one guy I cared about!?

theres more, things werent working out. i wouldnt fret.

82

I was talking about Milaela's love life too

im sure you could... you just dont try hard enough!

STUPID BOYS!!! But you're right though we can't live without them.

OMG! Are you ok Mikaela??
Ok I just heard this I'm not sure if it works but the best way to forget about a guy is.......GET ANOTHER GUY!!!! And (another thing I heard...actually read in a book) the best thing to do when stressed is kissing. As it was said in the book.....The abc's of kissing boys.

Carter doesn't deserve you anyway so 4get him.You deserve better.

How did Carter react when you broke it off?????

mmm going with what Reg said, i wouldn't rush into another guys arms... being in an emotional state right now you might just hurt the "rebound" guy when you no longer need him to feel better. us people being teenagers we have heightened emotions and are often controlled by them, so if you stop and think about what your doing things might work out better.

and i can't give advice about moving on cuz it took be around a yr and 1/2 to get over my first bf, and even still have my stomach drop when i see him in my Government class...

True...true... But what if while you were "using" him to feel better you actually start to have REAL feelings for the guy?? And actually start to care about him?? That as you were using him to feel better that you got to know him alot better than you did b4 and start to develop and have feelings inside you whenever you see his face and cant take him off your mind?? what if.....?

Lucky you Renee. I am still trying to move on. which will probably NEVER happen.

that is a "what if" that doesn't mean it will happen.

and you can't speed things up unfortunately, especially when its like a "first love" i've heard from most of my friends that they still have feelings for the first guy that they ever really cared about. like soniaandree's story.

In his mind it was already over...I think I just confirmed it for myself.
I'm being really careful with other guys...I don't wanna hurt anyone else just trying to make myself feel better or to make Carter jealous. Especially Kile...
There's no guy in my life who is a forever possibility right now so I'm just waiting. I'll find someone someday and for now I need to forget Carter and be friends with Kile.
This is hard...I agree Reg...I just wish I could go kiss somebody!

i'm am happy for you, and good things come in time..

I'm trying to be happy for myself too.
And this way I'm not attached to one guy at least....

you know i was telling Reg that being alone isn't always a bad thing, it allows you to strengthen yourself and your individuality, and be happy just the way you are. to do things you want to do not what "they" want to do. you'll learn what's really important to you and maybe the next guy will be a perfect match rather than just some guy that gets your hormones pumping.

Az üzenetet módosította a szerzője, nov. 5, 2009, 12:24am.

see im lucky im still to young to be worring about that stuff, some ppl my age decide they have to, i just think thats sad.

LT is starting to hate me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Every time i try to write something it earies it

Yeah true. Like I said I'M still trying to get over the first guy I ever cared about.

This might sound mean of me or something but when the guy DID move well I was trying to get over him and I did that by saying yes to a guy I didn't have feelings for except being friends.
I know it's mean and when I was feeling a little better I realized "Hey I don't even like this guy! Why am I with him?!" and broke it off. Then we never spoke again, we saw each other in the halls and in our classes but we just avoided each other mostly ME avoiding HIM.
I realized what I did to him was wrong and unforgivable and he might never wanna see me again so I just started avoiding him.

I know mean and harsh, right?
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he he he
LT doesn't hate you Helen!

>108 i'm so glad you aren't worried about stuff like this! plenty of time to worry about heartache when you're older

>110 yeah Reg that's a bit harsh but at least you see that and *hopefully* you won't do that again

Oh don't worry Renee. I will NEVER do that again. I mean that's not the rest of it...the bad part is I knew he was too wonderful and all so I couldn't say it to his face that I wanted to break up........

The next day when I saw the look on his face...uh-uh...no way. Never ever again. He thought I dumped him to go out with one of my frenemies ex.

NEVER NEVER EVER AGAIN. I SWEAR!

sad day!!!

Awwww....
I'm sorry Reggie!

I'm going to my dance tonight...I am so excited and so is Kile! It's so cute!!! If this wasn't a random internet site it'd so post a pic for you guys!

today is homecoming... :,(

dont like homecoming?

i didn't go becuz my bf and all my friends couldn't go because they had an event at school that lasted all day. i wanted to go, it is my senior yr, but i didn't..

:(

aawwwh!

I'm sorry Renee!
I had such an amazing time @ my dance!!!!
But now Kile's intimating that we should be a couple...he's so sweet and would never hurt me like Carter did but I'm really scared to ruin an awesome friendship. I told him that and he's thinking it over @ the moment.
:(
My troubles never end...

aw sad day! well may if you guys stay friends and don't rush things it might turn out ok. Do you have feelings for him at all?

eek ackward(did i spell that right?)

no

I don't know if I have feelings for him and that's what's scaring me! The other day I told him I think I maybe might like him more than a friend and her agreed and said he would not argue if I wantede us to be a couple.
We both decided it's better to wiat because:
A) We're only 15
B) We've only been real close friends for a couple months
C) I'm still madly in love with Carter.

I'm thinking C is the major factor...

C is defiantly a factor to consider

Remember that freshman boy who has a crush on me even though i've made it clear that i have a bf and now i've told him that he should find someone his own age. but he just said that he'll watch me from a far and like me! not like stalker status or anything but he just doesn't want to like anyone else! ahhhhh! i'm frustrated!

well farts to him.

!?

*shrugs* get used to it.

What do you mean farts?!

=pPpPpP raspberry

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yes defently c.

126
I would be too. but i would still call him a stalker

ha ha yea, somewhat a stalker.

erin that still doesn't make sense.

Dang do we have enough comments on this forum?!

...

This is soooooooo weird we are getting held in school and we have no idea why! jsut that a threat is in the comunity

:'( is kinda creepy... someone in the community is being bad.

i'm a scared

kinda... is someone caut for drugs or something?

umm i know as much as you. Though i think getting caught for drugs won't cause this much.

woah that is scary!!!!!

Sorry about your stalker boy Renee. That is sweet tho, just dont let him talk you into more than what you want.

I went to see 2012 last night w/ Kile and two other guys (ok I guess I gotta explain)
Ben is Carter's 13 yr old bro who has a seriously crush on me. He is adorable but he stands way to close and flirts alot (I've gotten used to it and we're just constantly standing close) My dad freaks out and has seriously instituted a 1ft space between us rule.
AND
Nate who was an old crush and is now just a good friend.

I felt like such the popular girl. I had all 3 flirting with me. It was great.

Who needs Carter?!

Go girl!!!

heh heh... Nate....

Aww...You didn't go to the dance either? Me neither. I could have gone since a few people offered to pay for my ticket but I refused. The only time I'll ever go to a dance is if I'm part of the committee and unless my crush asks me(never gonna happen).

Maybe freshman boy is like IN LOOOOVVVVEE with you. Ooooh....wait are you and your bf still 2gether?
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yup definitely C Mikaela. Yeah! Who needs Carter?! Play the field. You go girl!
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144: Yeah Erin NAAAATTTTEEE. he he he he

if ur talking to me Reg, yes i'm still with my bf

so Renee figure out what to do with the freshman yet

nope, not at all, though i don't feel the same way about him because he really is quite stupid.

WOW

yea... i dont get why boys think being stupid is at all cool... its also too common.

soo..guys...

Me and my bf broke up yesterday

OMG i thought you guys were doing GREAT!
What happend

idk..

i told him i didn't have the same romantic feelings for him like i had when we first started dating, i didn't say i wanted to break up but i couldn't hold it inside anymore.

and then he told me i wasn't the same girl that he fell in love with over the summer. then i got mad because he accused me of wanting to break up even though i never said that.

back at school we talked about it and he said there was no use going out anymore because we wouldn't be able to "rekindle the flame" so i said "ok, i gues we aren't going out"

i actually feel ok, i didn't even cry or get upset. i mean i wasn't sitting at home on the couch with a tub of ice cream and a sappy romantic movie. probably because i never really "loved" him i just liked him alot.

and i figure i'm young and trying to get into college i don't need to be worrying about a serious relationship right now. plus i'm happy with my life (for the most part) that i don't need a guy to make it complete.

ima go to docer college! ;D

Az üzenetet módosította a szerzője, dec. 3, 2009, 3:00pm.

Renne

WOW
Well i guess it's good that your alright.
And yeah you sooooooooooo don't need a guy to make you complete.Women rule!

aww thanks Helen :)

Az üzenetet módosította a szerzője, dec. 3, 2009, 6:21pm.

That's what i'm here for

yesh

WHAT:'(

WHAT?

ur being mean

OK so I'm really sorry Renee but now at least you won't have to be worrying about feelings for freshman dude.

OK, so I am dating Kile now. I am serious. He's amazing!!!

YAY!! I hoped that would happen :D

and the freshman flirts with just about anything that walks on two legs so i'm not gonna go there. lol

Oh wow

how m i bean mean? D=

but your a tom boy soooooooooo that's really weird

wait. who's such a tom boy?

nothing Ezni posted something then acdentaly deleted it

Oh. HI Ezni!

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Guess what? I finally told my friend who I like. Then I told Brian (though I wasn't really planning to). next day everyone knew! including my crush! Now people keep saying: "Hey, Reggie. You west side?" or "Psst, Reggie. You like Devonte?"

It was much better when only one friend knew cuz now all I can do is: AVOID, AVOID, AVOID!

OMG! soooooooooooooooo embarising!

that ish y i dont tell anyone.

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read my two paragraph-so-far story! :D (in What do you think?.... its pretty self-explanitory...)

Az üzenetet módosította a szerzője, dec. 17, 2009, 4:39pm.

omg guys! my ex bf already has a new gf!! we only broke up like 3 weeks ago and he already had a new girl last thursday! ARGH!! my best friend said she saw them sucking face yesterday! eww...

what a jerk. you dont deserve a guy who does that, i feel bad for the girl.

i know that's what i thought

OMG!
he's a slut!!!!!!!!!

yep pretty much...

he he he

u know that if a girl had a new bf a couple weeks after breaking up w/ the old one, ppl would call her a slut. so i think the same thing should apply to guys!

yea, take that sexist people! (not that anyone here is sexist, dont get me wrong!)

Az üzenetet módosította a szerzője, Ma, 7:26pm.